Newspaper headline.

Now for the drama we all crave.

Says it all doesn't it about our lives. Why can't we just be happy with what we have and enjoy the peace within we can have?

We don't want this. We want drama to post on Facebook. To appear to have an exciting life. To have what we deserve. Drama is what we'll get in our own life and the life of the world.

Everything has been very peaceful the last two weeks. For Janet and me. I couldn't take any more visits at night and she couldn't take anymore negative disruptions to her life. The presence in the bedroom does automatically create fear but I understand that they're all only there wanting help. You either have to remind their loved one that they're not really dead or to tell them something. When you're done that things settle down again.
Janet's life seems to be back in harmony with her partner and self. She knows her father still loves her and is with her but he wants her life to be as peaceful and happy as it can be.

Peace has descended on us all. Christmas and New Year have come and gone. The visitations have stopped as Janet has accepted that she needs to pull down the shrine to her father. She has done that and he was able to leave this plane knowing she was now safe and happy. Her marriage has been saved and she is now a much better person. Letting go of grief finally increases your power so much by building your character.
The end of year always has a lot of movement. Many things finish and new starts begin. The earth turns on it's axis just as we renew on ours. All's right with the new year so let the peace descend.

A friend called Janet was trapped. Her father had died five years earlier and she had erected in her bedroom a shrine to his memory. She was constantly trapped in her grief and became very depressed as a result. Her partner was at wit's end what to do to help her and they nearly separated as a result.
After I heard about the shrine there was a presence in the bedroom one night. I put off telling her as I felt I shouldn't interfere. Would someone believe you anyway? Two weeks later the presence was there again with the same message and I knew I couldn't put off telling her any longer. I emailed her with the message reminding her that the shrine was only trapping herself and her father. She had to let go to move on with her life and for him to be released as well.
That same week the magazine she always buys also ran an article on grief and letting go. This was a puzzle magazine and never usually had articles in it.
Both of these messages happening together really affected her and she took down the shrine and has started to rebuild her life and happiness. I'll let you know when I hear more.

Life is very hard to let go of and death difficult to accept for those left behind. No matter how many years pass many continue to grieve and often out of guilt cannot let go. If only they had done more, been there for the person more often etc that person would have lived longer. No matter what you tell yourself we each have a set life here. We have chosen our birth and death dates long before we come here. No matter what you did or didn't do you still couldn't have changed anything.
A priest once said,"Don't grieve for too long otherwise that person gets trapped here."  Excessive grief traps the dead and the living cannot move on.
Give thanks for their life and realise how much it has added to the richness of your tapestry but never cling to those memories. Move forward with happy memories in your heart.