Do you think we have no choice of the time of our death? Just look at the timing of Carrie Fischer's death and her mother Debbie Reynolds. Think that was random?
"She was very sad about losing Carrie and said that she would like to be with her again. Fifteen minutes later she suffered a severe stroke." After that they were reunited.
Death is random right?

Around the anniversary of John Lennon's death we must all examine why we can't give peace a chance.
Why do we always choose noise, noise and more noise as the background to our lives? Very few of us can enjoy just sitting quietly and focussing on now. We're all too scared of depressing thoughts entering our brains that take over and we can't control. So we have to have headphones or the television on in what we think of as a boring moment.
Change yourself first then change the world,

Towards the end of the year we all examine what happened that year. Often not much.
So much is put off until we think is the appropriate time.
Now is the best time for everything. Don't put anything off for a rainy day as that day is now.
Just do it.

The supermoon overlooked us this week. The ants looked up and were dwarfed by a mighty ball of light. We became so tiny beside it that you could only look on and marvel.
Ever thought that we are not as great as we think we are? The power is us but is also everything. We are the speck but reaching for the stars.

Standing overlooking battlegrounds always makes people somber and reflective. So many souls died here. But the war graves are kept so beautifully and the souls are always remembered and revered. Being placed in positions where bravery is required in life lifts a person to new heights. You question your life and usually start to pray often for the first time. You can feel a power charge soar through you. You are suddenly no longer alone. Fear of death can be faced together and often overcome.
That's you a new person. You've faced your greatest fear and overcome it.

It's very interesting to question all our fundamental beliefs sometimes. Who in fact is the happiest in this life?
The native in his grass skirt living without electricity and facebook but with a huge smile perpetually on his face. Or us trying to cross a busy road or squashed onto transport trying to always meet a life of deadlines.
We'd always thinks how lucky we are with many comforts - modern houses, water on tap, controlled climates, constant amusement.
Of course it's us. Isn't it?

I'm now at the scene of the Battle of the Coral Sea which is Guadacanal. All those bombs, boats and battles. That is the true definition of living in the now when if you're not fully aware and here your head geta blown off. There's no room and time to spend your day glued to the phone in case you get a call. It's live every second or you're dead.
No time to spend your life walking around in endless circles which most of us do. Life is urgent. It's short and you have much to learn. Go forth and live the experience. You're not here to be totally secure.  Live.

This week was the anniversary of our neighbor's death. She was a circus woman all her life doing contortion and trapeze acts, they even kept monkeys at home for many years. I often have felt her presence and know she is around me. This week it was very strong and she gave me a sign.
An older man was standing next to me in a large crowd. We started talking and it turned out he had lived his early life very close to Em. She always had talked about a man called Graeme who she knew well. Of course this turned out to be Graeme.
He was telling me his life story and I said, "Your name isn't Graeme is it?"
A coincidence or do these ever exist?

My new book Peace needs reviews. A colleague from work started a story which turned into an account of life beyond death. Of course I finished it. If you feel you can help leave a message and I will send you the book.

Thanks for reading. 

Elizabeth

Loved hearing this week about Icelandic elves. They have always been in their folklore but are not little people as we think of them
They look like us and walk among us. They are our guardians and protectors of the natural world.
Look around you. The man you see opposite you on the train and the regal looking woman walking home. Any of them might be your special angel,
Open your eyes to this life's endless possibilities.

Saw two rainbows yesterday. What a spectacular reminder of the beauty that surrounds us.
We spend our lives focused into black what what colours and sunshine always live with us.
They live side by side with us and don't forget the pot of gold at the end of each of them.
What riches and happiness we can decide to focus our lives upon. We are here for such a short time in this house of games where such magic as rainbows continuously happens. Why choose the dark cloth of life when there are endless colours to unveil to explore and live with?

Even though we cling to our lives staying the way they are we hate peace. We interpret quiet as boring without any purpose or excitement. If we're at home we need screaming. It can be kids, music, friends or the TV. But whatever or whoever it is it needs to be loud. Loud enough to block out our thoughts,
"If my mind is left to think for too long I just start to focus on the negative. I haven't got enough friends, I'm not attractive enough, I haven't got a steady relationship, my job isn't going well enough."
I can't allow myself to just rest my mind. It won't rest as it's always switched on. We're all choosing a world of unrest both domestically and globally.
Just check your choices and decide what you really want.

Just been on holiday. Dragging back the curtain of people's' lives means you get a small glimpse into their everyday routine. You're on holiday so you have no set routine for a while which means you can be totally objective in viewing others.
You realise how set and scared most of us are. We see change as a bad thing and fight it all the way. We can work around someone else and take them sightseeing but only for a short time. Every week things are basically the same and we love it that way. We cling to our safety net and are in total shock if we have to step outside it.
Help I'm falling. Return me to the dull and normal. That's always our choice,

Just moved house. Now everything is new. New neighbours - so pleased to get away from the teenagers next door in our old house whose parents pay to get them out of their house and so pass the problems on. New house, new area , new excitements to discover. Love when the old life finishes and all is renewed.
Most of nature renews every year. We are the only species who is scared and prefers to cling to what they know.
Go forth and renew. Happiness will be yours.

The 16 year old is up now and talking. The doctors all said they rarely see such extensive damage done when the patient survives. They think his survival is a miracle. Traces of ice were found in his system. He had got in with the wrong crowd and was headed down that nowhere path of self destruction. He rarely had seen his father but last time they were in contact he was in jail. He obviously after that thought I'll follow in my father's footsteps and go the same way.
This for him is a huge wake up call. A second chance which few get. Before he was depressed and aimless. Now he realises he is being looked after by an angel in the form of his dead aunt. Use this unique opportunity to turn your life around and make a difference. Your background doesn't need to dictate your future.

A 16 year old was knifed this week at a party by another boy of his own age. He nearly died. He had to be resuscitated by a passing nurse as his heart had stopped. He is still in a coma and has to have numerous operations.
I was speaking to his relative. Her sister died last year and she had been cleaning out a cupboard where she found a birthday card. She had forgotten this card even existed but started reading it. It said, "Happy 18th birthday Matt." Matt is the 16 year old who has just been knifed.
Goosebumps. Sometimes the dead do still send us messages. And they're always messages of hope.

Your happiness is often invaded. A sick person needing attention, someone who needs a visit, a person who needs an ear. Often people need reassurance and you are the strong one. But don't give up your strength for others. By continually being asked for help and giving it you'll be sapped dry.
Stay strong by drawing on the power that's around you but assess your priorities in transferring that strength. Sometimes you must say "No" to survive. You'll feel guilty but you won't be hollowed dry and end up ill . Sometimes we all need to reassess our lives.

What happiness and joy come from the simple things in life. We're all so attuned into thinking that to attain success we have to work at it relentlessly. Success of course equals happiness. So we work and strain constantly until we're worn out with all the stress. When we have success everyone wants something from us and you're made to feel guilty for saying no.
But really this is not happiness at all. You wake up feeling happy if there's the sound of a bird outside your window. A simple kiss from the people you share your life with. A sharing feast with those around you. These are the happy times that make you smile and want to spread the wonder. Spend the day listening to your soul.

He's still sitting here, read the email.
My father had died two years earlier and had been cremated. The funeral home had said he would be scattered over a lake. His body had left us but I've always know that's not the end.
A letter arrived this week stating that this had never been done. His ashes were still on the shelf and what was to be done?
It was just a poke from him telling us all that he was still around and not to be forgotten. He was still with us all looking after us and protecting us. Sometimes he just needed to send us a reminder.
His body has now been scattered and we're still living in the glow of hope. His presence is with us now and we'll join him later. We're never left alone.

Always knew how powerful a positive mind was against total evil and negativity. But this week saw it in action.
Sold a house yesterday but a week before the auction this very nasty developer wrote to our law firm who had organised the contracts, saying the house encroached on his property by .23 of a metre. That's the length of a brick! He then sent his son along to the auction to offer a low bid and sabotage proceedings.
Good prevailed and we ended up with a strong sale price. The force of the universe always helps those who believe in the power of positivity in this world.
Always live your life knowing that power.

The world is full of power plays.
The small picture power play. This week our neighbour complained that our house infringes his by .23 metres. Point scoring over us.
The world power play. Award winning journalists photographs taken of nuclear disasters. White on white images of spirits still sitting at tables when the bombs went off. The body is left just hanging in time while the soul has departed. A moment in time, a split second between life and death. Millions die, the ultimate power show.
Chilling images. But we all individually can step away from these games and make our world and consequently others better. Use the power for good not evil.

The birds have all flown to safer ground. All the ground animals are safe sheltering in any available cover. Humans are the only animals that have lost touch with their instincts. Except for weather reports we have no idea of what is to come in our lives. We can't read the clouds, we often can't see the water and follow the waves. Our sensitivity to nature is now non-existent. We have lost touch completely with nature (the external) and ourselves ( the internal).
Start to feel again. The peace that comes after a wild storm. That all encompassing release of peace. Lying in bed absorb that feeling. Take it in through your pours and allow your body to just totally relax and go into the serenity.
May the peace that passes all understanding be with you and remain with you now and forever. Peace.

Bang! Crash! The whole force of nature so powerful in action. The rains that seem never ending turn into floods. Rivers overflow while the sea rises up in giant waves that lash the land. I look on in awe.
The full moon is causing huge tides and affecting global weather systems. What power is at work here. What all encompassing magnificence.
We too are part of this global power. We can use this great strength in our lives to harness the changes that need to happen within us.
Use this time of great movement to add to and enhance your life. We are all part of the One.
Strength and love.

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Thank you all.

Prince always said,
"If only I could live forever".
Well he couldn't and none of us can. But really would anyone want to live forever? You say if you were perpetually young and no one died you would. But would you?
Most people can barely cope with their brief lifespan now. There's always drama and they don't have enough money. But even if you were as rich and brilliant as Prince would you always want to be here?
We all cling to life and are scared of death but ultimately life is for learning and striving for knowledge. Death brings peace rest and all knowledge anyway.
Accept death to enhance life.

It's 24 hours of Random Acts of Kindness Week.

And so far I have been ignored and snarled at in a queue. Abused on the phone by a business man who wasn't getting his way and elbowed out of the way outside a restaurant. How kind we have become. 

Have we become so used to always expecting to get what we want that we can't tolerate other people getting in our way? Or that our lives are so focused on ourselves that we don't even know that other people even exist? I think both of the above.

Intend to get out of your own skin for once and just try helping and thinking of someone else for a change. Ok you're in a rush but it's not going to kill you if you just relax for once. It could kill someone else if you don't. Something hasn't gone your way but in the end it's only business. You'll get another contract if you can accept things more.

Practise happiness and giving this gift to others and you'll soon realise that you are not the only person who needs kindness in this world.

We worry so much about every triviality in life.
Maybe I'm just like my mother
She's never satisfied.
When doves fly
Prince
Am I growing more and more like my mother or father as I get older? If we feel we are going down the same path they took and don't like it, as long as we know and can see the problem we can check it and change things.
Our lives are so brief that we should strive to become who we really want to be regardless of our past or our parents. Ultimately you choose who you want to be. Life is too short to become someone you don't like. Happy Mother's Day.

Meeting and talking to a man who had nearly died on the operating table he told me his biggest regret. "If I had died no one would have noticed. Everyone would have just said, "Poor Frank" but never thought about me again. My wife and kids might have remembered me a little longer but that's it."
Irelized that's what we all ultimately crave attention. To be noticed now and remembered when we die. To have lived that Prince life.
That's why social media is so popular. Endless selfies and posts of what we've been doing. Advertisers understand our deepest cravings. "Don't go quietly". Our world has become a flood of photos and bad behaviour trying to draw attention to ourselves.
We have to decide. Do we want to be famous? Is that the way to happiness?

The hardest thing to do in life is to let go. Our lives are so frail that we cling to what we have.
An abusive partner
Children even when they grow up
At least I have a job.
All of these give us security so we're not alone. But the reality is that we're never alone. If we have the power within us and the knowledge that we really never die how can we not learn to let go and move forward with our life?
In Gravity Sandra Bullock's daughter died on earth. She clung to the memory. But looking at this objectively from a long way off in space she realised how much she had impeded her earthly life by clinging to the past.
"What you have to learn is to let go', says George Clooney when he tells her to unhook him before he plummets into space.
Learn this great lesson to truly discard the past.

The thin red line. The difference between sanity and madness, between life and death.
All of us live on that edge. We mightn't know it but we all do. Some choose it for the excitement. Olivia has a violence order out against her boyfriend as he had his hands around her neck. He is out of jail and texting her again. She can't help but reply sometimes. She's not back with him again yet but...?
Next door are just teenage dirtbags. They share common walls with all their neighbours. Last night they had a dance party, screamed all night and climbed all over the roof of different houses. Jumping between different roofs seems like fun. Oops. A thin red line.

Why are we all so bored in life? We have lived in peace for so long that we are taking it for granted and choosing constant drama in our lives.
People think drama is exciting but it can turn deadly. A friend was nearly strangled by her partner in a remote spot which she chose to go to with him to. She had taken violence orders out against him before. She knew what he was like but he was offering her holidays and excitement which she couldn't resist.
He lured her there. At first it was a pleasant dinner on her arrival. He had cooked a delicious dinner for them and they were enjoying each other's company. Then she mentioned a lovely weekend she had just spent with friends. The mood suddenly darkened. He couldn't handle the fact that she had enjoyed herself without him. His hands went around her throat. She kicked him and ran for the door. He grabbed her and threw her down the stairs,
She again became submissive and doing that allowed her to eventually escape and call the police.
Leave him. Choose peace and give up the drama. Look at yourself and see what you've both become. Choose a better life.

Easter is a time for renewal and resurrection. All religions teach us that death does not exist. But we don't believe any of them. We always live thinking this is it and are terrified to die.
Yes the body dies but our soul essence does not. Watching a dead body white and stiff fools us into thinking this is the end. But really it's only the start for all of us. A person's essence is so pure and happy. Pleased that their earthly trial is over and with their wisdom and experience enhanced, they can now truly rest in peace.
Eternity.

Blocking out the wonder of life by shutting our eyes when we only think of ourselves, by putting continuous music in our ears and bombarding our mind with negative thoughts. Most people seem to be wearing screwed up worried faces. The reality is that we live in a world full of wonder and true magic. We live in a time of relative peace which leads to self indulgence and entitlement. What our ancestors did to advance our lives to give us this pampered existence which we take for granted. Being pioneers in wild environments, dying on the Somme, fighting in the Pacific. How easy is our life? The hardest thing most people have to do is look for their morning coffee.
"But they had the adventures", you say. Your life can still be as ground breaking and forward moving as theirs. You just have to seek the magic. It's still there to find as much as ever.

Sat behind a woman (of course) on the bus who never stopped pouting and staring at herself while gazing lovingly into her phone. This continued for a full twenty minutes while we ran through the whole continuum of life as the bus rushed on to her destination. After twenty minutes of flicking back her long streaked blonde hair and thinking, "Aren't I beautiful," she got off the bus to huge sighs of relief all round.
So many of us have become so inward thinking. We block out the world's sound with headphones, the sights with staring at the phone and we think we've made ourselves immune to life. We live in our own private Idaaho.
Well think again. You're not only blocking out what you've chosen not to see you're also blocking life's colour and wonder. Life demands to be taken notice of.

As soon as the old man was released  his brother became critically ill and died two days later. Many family members choose to be together in life as well as death.
While he was waiting to die his wife came to him and said, "Why are you taking so long to die? I'm waiting for you" . She had left him fifteen years before. But now they are together again. No one really dies. They just release their body and continue on with their spiritual existence. Release is always chosen.

A butterfly in the room of a dying man. It flaps it's wings but won't fly away. The man is very old and due to our moralistic primitiveness has to starve to death even though he begs the doctors for mercy  so he doesn't have to struggle on. Finally the butterfly is released and flies away free of the bonds of imprisonment. The old man is also now free of his cloying body.  No wonder in Chinese culture the butterly symbolises death and release.
A fire alarm sounds at home in the early morning. Just two notes. One long blast followed by one short blast. The alarm has never sounded before and there is nothing cooking. It's his signal to tell us that it's finally over. He has been released.

Peace is an extraordinary account of survival beyond death. It is a story inspired by true events. Whilst sitting in a bar I overheard fragments of a mesmerising reminiscence. "I was on holiday in northern France near the town of Amiens when I suddenly turned a corner and came face to face with myself. This self though was dressed in a soldier's uniform from the last century..."

E.L. Howard is a medium. Her life's work has been to dispel the fear of death so everyone can lead a happier and more fulfilled life.

Find Peace at
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We live in such a grey world in our minds. A life of worrying, trying to block out problems with constant music in our ears and living in the past leads to a life of stress and dull colours.
The bigger life of bright colours is there to see. The vast blues of the sea, the greens of the trees and grasses, the reds and yellows in the sun and sunsets. No wonder our ancestors were all sun worshipers. Their descendent shave become grey worshipers of money and business.
Reclaim the vividness of blue, green, red and yellow which leads to a new opening up of life. Live the full life of rich colour.

From suffering comes great joy. A mother dies. Her son who has lived in his car for years suddenly has options. Her daughter fearful of the future can now live in peace. Peace with possibilities.
Another father who is in renal failure has now lived for months rather than the forecast days in order to reconcile his children to his death.
A granddaughter is now able to live and tend to her grandmother's garden. A great legacy for her future.
All's right with the world.

Newspaper headline.

Now for the drama we all crave.

Says it all doesn't it about our lives. Why can't we just be happy with what we have and enjoy the peace within we can have?

We don't want this. We want drama to post on Facebook. To appear to have an exciting life. To have what we deserve. Drama is what we'll get in our own life and the life of the world.

Everything has been very peaceful the last two weeks. For Janet and me. I couldn't take any more visits at night and she couldn't take anymore negative disruptions to her life. The presence in the bedroom does automatically create fear but I understand that they're all only there wanting help. You either have to remind their loved one that they're not really dead or to tell them something. When you're done that things settle down again.
Janet's life seems to be back in harmony with her partner and self. She knows her father still loves her and is with her but he wants her life to be as peaceful and happy as it can be.

Peace has descended on us all. Christmas and New Year have come and gone. The visitations have stopped as Janet has accepted that she needs to pull down the shrine to her father. She has done that and he was able to leave this plane knowing she was now safe and happy. Her marriage has been saved and she is now a much better person. Letting go of grief finally increases your power so much by building your character.
The end of year always has a lot of movement. Many things finish and new starts begin. The earth turns on it's axis just as we renew on ours. All's right with the new year so let the peace descend.

A friend called Janet was trapped. Her father had died five years earlier and she had erected in her bedroom a shrine to his memory. She was constantly trapped in her grief and became very depressed as a result. Her partner was at wit's end what to do to help her and they nearly separated as a result.
After I heard about the shrine there was a presence in the bedroom one night. I put off telling her as I felt I shouldn't interfere. Would someone believe you anyway? Two weeks later the presence was there again with the same message and I knew I couldn't put off telling her any longer. I emailed her with the message reminding her that the shrine was only trapping herself and her father. She had to let go to move on with her life and for him to be released as well.
That same week the magazine she always buys also ran an article on grief and letting go. This was a puzzle magazine and never usually had articles in it.
Both of these messages happening together really affected her and she took down the shrine and has started to rebuild her life and happiness. I'll let you know when I hear more.

Life is very hard to let go of and death difficult to accept for those left behind. No matter how many years pass many continue to grieve and often out of guilt cannot let go. If only they had done more, been there for the person more often etc that person would have lived longer. No matter what you tell yourself we each have a set life here. We have chosen our birth and death dates long before we come here. No matter what you did or didn't do you still couldn't have changed anything.
A priest once said,"Don't grieve for too long otherwise that person gets trapped here."  Excessive grief traps the dead and the living cannot move on.
Give thanks for their life and realise how much it has added to the richness of your tapestry but never cling to those memories. Move forward with happy memories in your heart.